Masturbation...The Issues

What about masturbation?

Masturbation is a process of gaining sexual satisfaction through the sexual stimulation of one’s own sexual organ to the point of sexual arousal by massaging, touching or stroking the penis or clitoris several times.  In some cases stimulation may be by use of everyday object or sex toys.

Masturbation occurs in both male and female. It is a wrong practice; some people think there is nothing wrong with it, however to benefits is small compare to the adverse effect it has on someone.

Some people suggest it as a way to avoid premarital sex. But it could completely destroy your sex life completely. You will see how negative it is as we go on.

The habit

Most habits are developed unconsciously; the movie we view, the pornographic pictures and magazines can stir up sexual desire and cause wrong addiction which will most time stir up the habit. There are lots of factors that can lead one to the habit however making friends with those who practice it and listening to talks that encourage it will facilitate one developing the habit. 

According to Sigmund Freud the habit can be developed from childhood if not checked. Sigmund Freud a Psychosexual development theorist, his works on early childhood development, stipulates that a child’s behavior is geared towards some parts of their body. According to him, adult behaviors are as a result of childhood sexual desire when the child starts to pet or touch their private parts. Thus it is good that such habit should be discouraged because it can result to masturbation when they are grown up.

The bad side

It does come with some consequences; the habit often comes with a long-term cost of addiction and other sexual problems. Addiction may be as dangerous as any addiction such as drugs, alcohol, cigarette and tobacco in general. If not checked early it can result to a higher level of addiction that can affect one mentally and emotionally.  The case of a lady in Germany who walk into a medical center with two pencils in her bladder; objects she used as sex toys. Striking the penis is dangerous since it could cause failure in erection with time.

Masturbation is a satanic or demonic obsession. Our body should be honored the correct use of our organs should be respected since abuse is always very negative.

Research reveals that masturbation destroys sexual satisfaction from our partners and restricts one’s body self-stimulated sexual satisfaction. This will make it very difficult to satisfy our partners.

There was a time I went to present a talk on sex and sexuality in one of the polytechnics in Nigeria and one of the male student wrote to me how he feels dirty, ashamed and demoralized after each time he masturbated. And the worse is, he has tried stopping it but the more he tried the more the urge.  So you see this attitude is satanic and obsessive. 

Overcoming this devil

You actually need spiritual help; so praying and seeking spiritual counsel from your spiritual leaders will obviously help. In seeking spiritual help don’t forget your leader is a man and they are prone to error, so reject advices you think is not logical or adequate.

Spend more time with friends and family and avoid being idle. When the need to masturbate comes, always try to occupy yourself. The problem may come when you are in bed, result to prayer, you could pick a book that will take you to sleep. You can also keep candy or sugar free snack next to your bed. When your mouth produces more saliva it brings on serotonin, and that brings on a sense of well-being and comfort. Don’t be afraid of dental problems since sugar free is the option.

It is best you avoid porn materials. Always try to remind yourself of the long time effect; your mental and emotional health is important.

Develop healthy goals and occupy your time pursuing those goals. If your mind is filled with how you can achieve on task or the other there will be little or no time for the urge to occupy your head.

Develop healthy new habits and exercise often to keep you busy and healthy. Try to make sure your new hobbies replace the habit. If you think on how to improve on the hobbies you will with time completely cleared up of the satanic desire.

Be success oriented and get creative. Turn sexual urges into creative output (sublimation). You can start learn a new skill may be writing, playing of the keyboard  or other musical instrument, join a public speaking class, join the choir in your church or other groups in your area. Do whatever it takes to make you creative.

Listen to life transforming speech, view life transforming programs to replace the pornographic material.

Develop an unusual hatred for the habit and any thing that suggest the act.